Advice Breaking Up

How to save my marriage is a question I get asked regularly. In fact, if truth be known, I have also asked myself the same thing on some occasions.

If you are determined to save your relationship you can do it. Just be sure that you are doing it for the right reasons. You must be sure that this person is the right partner for you. You will need to find all the reasons why you got married in the first place and you will also need to rekindle some passion.

Hugging, touching and making love keep a couple connected. It doesn’t mean that your marriage is over if the physical side is gone but it does help to keep you together. Otherwise you might as well be mates sharing a living space. So if the spark has dwindled you may want to put some work into getting those fires lighting again.

Don’t waste time dieting. Men are very easy to please and if truth be known love a bit of curves to hold onto. Just buy some sexy but classy lingerie and arrange a sitter for your kids. If you are a man reading this, then be romantic. You can’t just expect your wife to run into your arms if there are problems. Court her like you did before the wedding. Buy flowers, book a babysitter, take her to dinner. Do some chores around the house – surprise her and you never know how she may surprise you back!

You need to strong and single-minded in your approach. It can be hard to be objective and see your partners point of view especially when emotions are involved. It can be a good idea to write a list of all the reasons why your marriage is worth saving and all the areas that could do with some work. Obviously you would expect the first list to be the long one!

Life can be tough especially in these economic times. We can all take our lives for granted and as we get older we sometimes wonder if we have missed out. These feelings can cause people to do silly things like walking out on their relationship.

Perhaps you were the one to hurt your partner. If so, you must say you are sorry. You will need to take things very slowly as you will have to regain some trust. But good relationships can overcome all sorts of problems so don’t let it deter you from your end goal.

You need to be mature enough to know that although you want to save your marriage, there must be some areas that need working on. You cant just paper over the cracks and hope for the best. You both need to agree that the relationship is worth saving. Unfortunately you can’t repair a broken couple on your own. It takes too!

But if you are determined that you want this person than go for it. Life is too short to waste time in regrets. It definitely isn’t always easy to answer how to save my marriage but if something is worth fighting for then you need to give it everything you have got. You might want to take a look at the advice TJ Dubs gives on his video here

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